Is there violence in my behaviour? Self-assessment questionnaire Step 1 of 15 6% I raise my voice or curse when addressing my partner. Yes No When I'm angry, I can't calm down and manage my reactions. Yes No I impose myself physically or point aggressively at her/him. Yes No I phone or text insistently to get answers. Yes No People around me may distance themselves from me or fear my reaction. Yes No I bang on the counter, slam doors or break things around the house. Yes No I sulk when my partner refuses sex or I withhold sex to punish my partner. Yes No I sigh, mock, ridicule or use sarcasm. Yes No My child tells me that I am often angry or seems fearful with me. Yes No I monitor my partner’s relationships, search my partner’s phone or question my partner insistently. Yes No I squeeze, push, hold or shake my partner. Yes No I criticize my partner’s actions or blame my partner for my partner’s habits. Yes No I monitor or control my partner’s spending. Yes No My partner asks me to change or else there is a risk that we will break up. Yes No I don't see any other way than to raise my voice to make the other person understand my point of view. Yes No